You’re Not Special: It’s Time to Face Reality

There are people who grow up believing they are special, that they are a step above others. This could be in the area of knowledge where you think that you are smarter than everyone else, especially the uneducated.

It might also have to do with physical attributes. There are for example beautiful women who think that they are so beautiful and attractive that they only deserve to be married to tall, handsome and good looking men.

Then there are people who because they grew up rich or became rich, think that they deserve only the company of other rich and successful people. They also usually look down on poor people or people beneath their wealth status.

Although everyone needs a healthy dose of confidence and pride in oneself, excessive confidence and belief in oneself can be a bad thing, especially if you believe that you are someone special.

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1. It Begins at Home

Unfortunately, the belief that you are special begins at home. Most especially your parents and the other senior people in your family like your grandparents. Ask yourself, how many times have your parents told you that you would grow up to be somebody special?

Of course, we can’t help this from our parents and the other senior people in your family. Children are usually looked upon by their parent’s as a representation of their aspirations. For example, if your parents are uneducated, they would surely want you to graduate from university one day.

If you are a parent now or acting as a guardian for a young child, it pays not to make the same mistake as other parents are doing. You should paint a realistic picture of life to the children under your care.

You need to tell them that life is unpredictable, that even if they have prepared well for life like having a nice upbringing and a good education, this is still not a guarantee that they would be successful in life.

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2. It’s Reinforced In School

There are also schools that reinforce the idea that their students are special, especially if they perform well academically and/or athletically. There are teachers for example who warn their students that if they don’t study well, they would end up not getting good paying jobs.

Our education system is responsible for creating a disparity in perception between prestigious and non-prestigious jobs although the pay rate for prestigious and non-prestigious jobs can be similar and even in reverse.

For example, there are students and graduates who think that just because they have a college degree, they are meant to just do high paying office jobs and not labor jobs. As a result, we have a lot of poorly paid white collar workers and in great demand for highly paid blue collar workers.

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3. Media Is Partly to Blame

Popular media is also partly responsible for making some people feel that they are special. For example, media regularly feature celebrities and rich people, making people believe that just because you are a celebrity or rich, you’re special.

But this can’t be helped as being a celebrity usually means that you’re also rich or about to become rich. The combination of these two factors is very alluring. This is why a lot of people would do everything, including bad things, to either become famous and/or a celebrity.

These people think that having a normal life is something to be looked down on. They think that life should be about living a life of luxury and glamour and they become distraught if they aren’t living this kind of life.

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4. How It Affects Your Career

It has been previously stated that on an almost global basis, we are experiencing an employment crisis. A lot of countries have an oversupply of university graduates and a shortage of blue collar workers.

There are employees who think that they are too good for their company that if they are not promoted to senior positions in a short time, they think that their company is shortchanging them. They become hostile to the companies that hire them but don’t promote them immediately.

These are also employees who detest working mundane tasks for their company because in their mind, they are only suited to give orders and not to take orders. As a result, they become hard to work with and are usually terminated from their job after a time.

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5. How It Affects Your Relationships

There are also men and women who think that their partners should treat them special. For example, there are women who think that just because they’re beautiful, they deserve to be pampered by men. They eventually learn that most men instead detest them.

There are also children who just because they are doing well academically, expect to be pampered by their parents. These children would also likely grow up thinking that just because they are smart, they deserve to be rich and even popular one day.

These children would also tend to look down on academically average students, thinking that they would outearn these academically average students one day. They would later realize that there would be average students that would outearn them one day and are more famous.

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6. It’s Time to Face Reality

If you are thinking that you are special just because you have some characteristics that other people don’t have, like being smarter, beautiful, physically superior and especially rich, think again.

This is because all the characteristics which you think makes you special can disappear in an instant and there would always be another person who have better characteristics than you. For example, you may be a millionaire but you can meet a person who is a billionaire.

Besides, not all people care whether you are smart, beautiful, physically superior and/or rich. In fact, they might even detest you, which means that instead of being treated as special, you would be treated as an outsider, making your social life miserable.

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Final Words

Our families, school, media and society in general usually make us believe that we are special or are bound to become special one day. This has been going on since civilization was founded, making fame and wealth the standard of success.

While there is nothing wrong with a healthy dose of confidence and even pride in yourself, believing that you are special and is above other people could negatively affect your career and relationships.

You must realize that the characteristics which you think makes you special like your intelligence, beauty, physical superiority and especially wealth can disappear instantly. There is also the reality that someone would always be better than you.

There would also be the possibility that the very characteristics which you perceive makes you special can cause you to be detested by others, making you a social outsider.

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